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Writing and addressing invitations 

Handwritten invitations sent by the hosts are always correct. For an informal wedding, a personal note may be sent. Telephone calls are also permissible for small, informal weddings.

Formal weddings require the more traditional formal invitation. Two matching envelopes are used; the inner unsealed envelope is addressed with only the guests' names while the outer envelope is fully addressed for mailing. When addressing the invitations, they must be handwritten. If children are to be invited, the names should appear on the inside envelope (children over 16 should be sent a separate invitation). Formal titles (Doctor, Colonel, etc.) should be written out, although it is customary to abbreviate Mr., Mrs. And Ms. Nicknames should not be used.

Examples:

  Inner envelope Outer envelope
Couple Mr. and Mrs. Doe Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
Couple with child Mr. and Mrs. Doe
Robert
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
Single couple Ms. Smith
Mr. Jones
Ms. Mary Smith
Mr. Henry Jones

The phrasing for formal invitations is always in the third person, black ink is used for engraving, and good quality ivory/white paper (usually linen) folded at the side is used. "The honour of your presence" is generally used for religious ceremonies and "The pleasure of your company" for civil ceremonies and receptions. The bride's last name is not used unless it differs from the sponsor's last name. Abbreviations are not used.

Examples:

Bride's parents are sponsors

Mr. and Mrs. John Thomas Doe
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Susan Leigh
to
Steven William Smith
on
Friday, the first of April
nineteen hundred and ninety nine
at half after one o'clock in the afternoon
St. Matthew's Lutheran Church
1111 Oakdale St.
Boston, Massachusetts 


Bride's parent who is a widow/widower

Mrs. (Mr.) John Thomas Doe
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of her (his) daughter
etc.......... 


Bride's mother who is divorced

Mrs. Alice Ann Johnson
requests the honour of your presence
at the marriage of her daughter
etc........ 


Bride's mother divorced and remarried

Mr. and Mrs. Robert Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of her daughter
Susan Leigh Doe
etc...... 


Bride's parents divorced, remarried and both sponsors of the wedding

Mr. and Mrs. John Thomas Doe
and
Mr. and Mrs. Robert Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of
Susan Leigh Doe
etc...... 


Bride's parents divorced, not remarried

Martha Ann Smith
and
John Robert Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Susan Leigh
etc..... 


Groom's parents as sponsors

Mrs. And Mrs. Alan Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of
Susan Leigh Smith
to their son
Robert William
etc.... 


Bride and groom as sponsors

Robert Alan William
and
Susan Leigh Smith
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage
etc........ 


These are but a few examples of traditional wording. Your printer will be able to assist you with correct wording to suit special needs.

Raised printing, and brightly colored papers and inks are available for couples wishing to express themselves less formally.

Invitations should be mailed about four to six weeks before the wedding. In order to allow yourself time to address the invitations, they should be ordered approximately three months prior to the wedding.



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Edna S,
Aug 20, 2013, 4:13 PM